My first wife and
I moved out here in 1967. Leaving Manhattan for
Staten Island was an action incomprehensible to
virtually everyone we knew on that tight little
island. Our arrival here proved no less inexplicable
to most members of our new community.
For one thing, our ethnic
and cultural backgrounds and (at that time) eccentric
appearances aside, we weren't particularly inclined
to conform to certain quaint Island customs. When
we started house-hunting in 1969, one real-estate
agent took us to look at something mid-island
- I can't remember exactly where - and, after
showing us the house, told us that the neighbors
all had an agreement, if I knew what he meant.
I said I didn't, which forced him to explain.
In a whisper (as if lowering his voice made it
any less illegal or immoral) he informed us that
no one in a six-block radius would sell to "a
colored." I told him we'd catch a bus home,
and not to call again.
So we decided to concentrate
our looking in Stapleton, where racism, which
deeply offended both of us, was at least less
overt. The house we ended up buying, what everyone
called "the old McDermott place" on
Van Duzer near Court, suited us fine: lots of
space, a small garden, an off-street parking space
and a view across the Stapleton valley. It was
priced in the low twenties; my mom lent us the
down payment, and we took occupancy in late 1969.
I learned later that the neighbors were thankful
that, though we obviously qualified as what they
called "hippies," we weren't of the
melanin persuasion.
Things change. A few years
later we got new neighbors on one side; he was
a local entrepreneur, she was a housewife, and
they merged the teenaged progeny of two marriages
- four on his side, three on hers - into a next-door
version of Eight is Enough. He'd trained
his own kids, and his dogs, to hate Blacks on
sight, spewed his venom casually, and scared me
half to death late one night when he showed up
at my front door with his shotgun, ready to "protect"
me from a Black friend of mine who'd stopped by
for a late visit, whom he'd assumed was burglarizing
the place.
Steve (as I'll call the
husband) was a hard case, and his gentle, diminutive
wife - let's call her Susan - didn't actively
oppose this attitude, but her heart really wasn't
in it. She couldn't help herself: she just loved
people, so long as they were decent types. She
saw her husband's rage infecting not only his
kids but hers as well - not to mention the Dobermans.
They'd yowl and slaver through the storm windows
at any Black person who walked by the house on
the sidewalk, twenty feet away. I was visiting
one day when they let loose; the racket was deafening,
it was like sitting inside the heart of fear.
Once, she confided in me,
she'd taken one for a walk to the bank on Tappen
Park on a drizzly day when - on the opposite sidewalk
- a Black man raised his umbrella to open it.
The dog tore its leash out of her grip, raced
across the street, snatched the umbrella, ripped
it to shreds and then backed the man up against
a fence, snarling with menace. "That poor
man," she muttered. "He must have been
terrified. I kept apologizing, and gave him money
for a new umbrella, but I'm sure he thought I'd
taught the dog to act that way."
Susan adored her new home,
into which both she and her husband put much money
and hard work. About three years after they settled
in, another family on our row with whom they'd
become friendly suddenly moved to Florida - with
no advance notice, over a holiday weekend, embarrassed
because they'd sold their house to a Black family,
the first on our block.
I didn't pay this much
mind, aside from stopping by to say hello and
welcome the latest arrivals. But a week later
I was out clearing up my back yard when Susan
came out into her rear garden. We exchanged hellos
over the fence, and then she asked, "Allan,
are you thinking of moving?" No, I answered;
why? "Well, I overheard you talking on your
terrace with some of your friends the other day,
and I thought you said something about leaving."
No, she must have been mistaken, I said. She seemed
unusually relieved, so I asked why she thought
I'd want to leave. "Because of our new neighbors,"
she replied. "Steve is furious; after all
the work and money we put into the house, he says
the neighborhood's going down the tubes."
I could see she wanted
some reassurance, so I paused to think for moment.
"Do you know how much I paid for my house?"
I inquired. She didn't, so I told her. "Now
how much did you pay for yours?" The figure
was much higher. "And your house is smaller
than mine, right?" She agreed. "So when
you paid more for your house than I paid for mine,
you and Steve drove my property values up, didn't
you?" She agreed again. "Now what did
these new arrivals pay for their house?"
It was an even higher figure - seems she'd already
introduced herself to them and found out. "And
their house is smaller than yours, isn't it?"
She nodded. "Well, then they drove up both
of our property values, wouldn't you say?"
She looked at me, speechless.
"You know," I mused, "real estate
soars in successfully integrated neighborhoods.
From my standpoint, the only thing better than
Black people moving in would be if one of these
houses sold to a gay couple; then the prices around
here would really skyrocket!"
She burst out laughing.
Steve, of course, was rabidly homophobic, along
with all his other prejudices, and she knew it,
and knew that I knew it as well. "Tell Steve
I said he's got nothing to worry about,"
I told her. We chortled for a moment; then she
confided, "Allan, I love this place. I grew
up down the hill, and when I was a little girl
I would look up at this house and say to myself,
'One day I'm going to live there.' I hope we never
leave."
Well, to make a long story
short, Susan eventually got rid of that husband
but kept the house, living there first by herself,
then with one of her stepsons, eventually selling
it to him when she got remarried. She still comes
to visit frequently.
I saw her just yesterday.
Somewhere in the conversation she remarked, "One
of the first things I said to my new husband when
we started to date was, 'I've got two good friends,
a couple, who are gay. One's Black, one's white.
Do you have any problems with that? Because if
you do, we're probably not right for each other."
As Marilyn French wrote
in her great novel The Women's Room, "Things
change, but more slowly than we do."